Sex is only for the Married

 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men^{[a] 10} nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. ¹¹ And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.   1 Corinthians 6:9-11.

Yesterday me and my husband were having a conversation about the sexually immoral and God spoke so clearly to me on this subject.  I don't think many people understand the biblical law as much as they should, especially believers.  I honestly believe that so many believers are going to be shocked on judgment day when they stand before our Lord and all their sins will be revealed by His light.  We deceived ourselves into believing that because we go to church, read our bibles and pray that this is enough to pull the wool over our Lord's eyes and convince Him that we are worthy of His kindom.   God sees what's in our hearts not what we try to pretray to the people around us! You can dress up the outside all you want but what do you look like on the inside? What does our God see in your heart? Are you ugly spiritually? You can't decieved the Lord, He sees who you are and He know's what's in your heart.  God also reveals to His true followers a glimpse of what's going on in the hearts of those who claim to be spiritually cleansed from all their sins but are only deceiving themselves. 

Mathew 17:3 says it so clearly; so many people will choose the road that is traveled  frequently rather then the road that's traveled less on their way into eternity.  Which road are you traveling now? You may already be taking the road that the majority of people are  traveling.  We choose in this life which path we want to take and we are already walking that path now, whether it be walking with our Lord on the road that leads to heaven and everylasting life, or walking with the world on the road that lead to destruction and death.   Which road have you chosen? If you are sexually immoral? Are you committing adultery against your Lord, your body, and your spouse? Are you greedy? Are you a thief steeling what doesn't belong to you? Do you cheat people? Do you drink excessively? Do you gossip to ruin other people's reputation? Are you having sex or thinking of have sex with the same sex? I hear so often that we are not perfect but there's a scripture verse for that too.  1 Peter 1:15 tells us "Just as He is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: be holy, because I am holy."  God would not tell us to be holy if He did not know we could.  God tells us in this verse that we can be like Him and if you are living a life that's pleasing to Him you are being holy. 

Sex was never meant for the single.  The bible calls anyone who has sex outside of marriage a fornicator.   Sex was designed for only the married according to the biblical law.  The bible calls a spouse who cheats or has the thoughts in their mind to cheat an adulterer.   God is very clear on His thoughts about adultery.  He hates it and He hates divorce.   Don't be deceived in thinking that you are worthy for God's kingdom if you are sexually immoral.  God makes it very clear that anyone who is will not inherit the kingdom of God.  What does this mean? It means you are not going to heaven if you are having sex outside of marriage, cheating on your spouse, having sex with the same sex, a drunkard, a thief, a slanderer, a swindler. 

This all can be changed if you are willing to give up the desires of the flesh and practice self-control.  God is forgiving and merciful.  He does not want anyone to perish but for all to come to repentence.  It's not too late to change your path into eternity.  All you have to do is ask Jesus to help you.  He tells us to have self-control because He understand that we are not perfect and will be tempted.  It's what you do with these temptations.  You can choose to act on them or dismiss them and know that they are from the enemy who wants your soul to join him in hell.  The choice is yours.  Mathew 11:13 Jesus says "my yoke is easy and my burden is light".  Only when you have come to true repentence will you understand and know that it is not hard to live in this world, especially when you have Jesus walking with you every step of the way.  You do not have to do this alone and it does not have to be hard but you have to want to change. 

Please note: I know this post is touching on some very convicting points but keep in mind;  This is not my laws or even my opinions.  I am speaking on the Lord's behalf-I am just the messanger so don't shoot the messanger! If you have a problem with anything I've written take it up with Lord because I only took what He said from His word-the bible.  God would love that you got down on your knees even if it was to have it out with Him.  He wants a relationship with you and He's waiting to bless your life.  You can be happy and have peace, even in the most trying circumstances.  John 14:27 says "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid".  The world can never understand this peace but we can. 

The Grass Looks Oh So Apealing On The Other Side....

Everyone has heard the saying "the grass looks greener on the other side" and most people know what this means.  In case you haven't heard this saying before, it means that a person is unhappy with their current situation and starts looking else where for something better.  This  usually happens in a serious long-term relationship and sadly even in marriages.  It took me a long time to figure out this whole love thing and because of this I've made some ungodly decisions due to my ignorance and lack of knowledge that hurt my husband and my children. 

Love is not a feeling and this should be understood before I continue on.  Love is a choice and I'm convinced that most people go into relationships having no clue what the true meaning of love is and I was one of them.  I almost lost everything all because I was living my life according to how I felt.   No one ever goes into a relationship thinking  their mate will cheat on them, abuse them, abuse drugs and alcohol, or treat them unfairly.  We all want to be loved, respected, put first, and treated fairly and when we decided to start a new relationship this is what we expect.   We know that no one is perfect but when it comes to our feelings we expect people to always treat us right. 

I struggled after the first few years of my marriage thinking I had fell out of love with my husband because I didn't feel the same as I did in the beginning.  We started fighting all the time, we chose to put other things and people before each other, his feelings didn't matter to much to me and mine didn't to him either.  We were losing respect for each other and before long, we hardly wanted to be around each other.  I had thought for sure we were no longer in love and so we separated.  This happened many times in the first five years of our marriage and it was easy back then because I only had one child to take with me at the time.  I was hurt, sad, and always felt let down by him.  I never really paid any attention to how I was treating him, all I was concerned about was how he was treating me. 

I became delusional thinking that we must not be meant for each other and more and more the grass started looking greener on the other side.   I wanted those feelings I once had with him in the beginning and I felt I deserved those feelings back, and all my family and friends agreed with me.  When you fall in love and experience that feeling of ecstasy for the first time you become hooked, and you soon find yourself addicted to the love high.  But, when you start to noticed things about your mate that shows they are imperfect, or they suddenly start treating you differently, things begin to change and you begin to coming down for that love high.   This is when a conscious decision needs to be made whether or not you will choose to love that person or continue to live by your feelings. 

There are a few questions you should ask yourself when making this decision: 

1. How much am I willing to deal with?
2. Am I capable of loving him through the difficult times?
3. Am I willing to accept that we are both imperfect?
4. Can I stay faithful to him?

I must tell you that doing these things alone will not be successful and I tell you this from experience.  I had to invite God into my life and my marriage and I had to trust in Him.  If it wasn't for God we would be divorced living separate lives.  God has given me great wisdom and understanding that the world cannot understand.  One who has wisdom will acknowledge that every relationship no matter what type it is will have it's issues. 
When you start looking to see if the grass is greener on the other side you should first acknowledge that if you should leave and go to the other side you are only trading one set of problems for another, and you risk getting worst problems then what you already have. 

Now with all of this being said; by no means am I suggesting you stay in a relationship where you feel your life is in danger; God would never expect you to either. 

Scripture verse: 1 Corinthians 3: 4-7
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.